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Sexual Wellness in the Age of Isolation, Part 1
Life in lockdown can be a real turn-off, especially if you find yourself suddenly spending every waking (and sleeping) moment with your sexual partner. For most couples who live together, spending time apart is key to not only a functioning relationship, but a fun and fulfilling sex life. We go to work, we exercise, we socialise, we have hobbies — our days are divided by slices of separation and solitude that allow us to indulge in the sort of fantasies about our partner aided purely by their absence, eagerly awaiting the moment when we’ll be wrapped up together, all limbs and linen, once more. It hardly allows for the same level of sex appeal and anticipation when you know they’re mere metres away at any given moment — probably doing something extremely inconsiderate and annoying (because at this point even the volume at which they breathe is, quite frankly, rude) and wearing the same sweatpants, again.
That’s not to mention the general atmosphere of anxiety and stress caused by this whole global pandemic situation, which isn’t necessarily conducive to a free-and-easy attitude. As flawed and complex humans, we all have our own individual coping mechanisms, which might explain why you’ve been feeling super horny the last few weeks but can’t seem to get your partner excited by anything other than the words “Joe Exotic”.
Sexual Wellness in the Age of Isolation, Part 2
We are in strange times. But if it’s any consolation, we’re all in strange times together, with all of our lives having been impacted in some way. Whether you’ve been in a long-distance relationship for a while now or you’re newly navigating one within the context of a global pandemic, maintaining a strong sexual connection is of utmost importance when you can’t be with your partner physically due to social distancing or quarantine.
When we’re around our partners, we are constantly giving and receiving affection — from absentmindedly brushing the hair out of their eyes to more making more overt moves. These actions not only allow us to feel safe and secure, but contribute greatly to that transcendental, animalistic quality known as sexual chemistry. In the absence of physical cues such as eye contact, touch, and an engagement of the other senses, we run the risk of losing the intimacy that we can more easily forge with someone when we’re with them in real-life.
Being distanced from a lover requires a bit more creativity and lateral thinking to keep the flame alight. But just because we’ve taken a hiatus from touching doesn’t mean the health and hotness of a relationship needs to suffer. Rather than seeing this time apart as a burden, why not look at it as an opportunity to really set things on fire and create an explosive atmosphere for when you are reunited? After all, as the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Sexual Wellness in the Age of Isolation, Part 3
The coronavirus pandemic has caused disruptions to daily life for all of us, to varying degrees. The routines we once took for granted — the comfort and security they brought us — have been all but eroded as we shift towards a life lived at home while navigating the challenges that come with things like financial stress and changing work situations. To add insult to injury, health officials have basically told us to put a hold on casual sex, dating, and physical intimacy of any kind. Fair enough, the virus is highly contagious and easily transmitted, but still — what’s a girl to do?
The good news is that while the world around us goes into lockdown, your libido need not. This forced time indoors and in isolation can actually be a bit of a blessing in disguise — at least where self-pleasure is concerned. Now is the perfect time to really get to know your own body and what turns you on. Besides, being single and “putting yourself out there” can be emotionally exhausting — now is a time to recoup your energy reserves and make it all about you.